I now know why it doesn't work to push a woman who has resisted your advances. I think every guy has gotten a phone number and, at the time, thought "Yeah!" only to later find it to be a flake. This can hurt, especially if you don't have other options or don't understand why it hurts or why the flake happened (if it can ever be understood). If you see her again, there is a temptation to call her out on it. This happened to me. I gave a woman, who I wasn't interested in, my number instead of just telling her no (it was easier, trust me on this). She phoned me and left a message -- I never returned the call. This happened several weeks ago and I saw her last night. She came over to give me a hug and then called me out on it. It was only uncomfortable for a moment until I realized that I should keep my own energy. I agreed with what she was saying (didn't argue or go defensive) and shrugged my shoulders. As I was leaving the venue, she yelled my name and came running (no joke, never had a woman run after me before) over to me. She asked if I was going to return her call next time, I shrugged my shoulders, sorta shook my head and gave a cheesy grin. While turning to go, she said: "You're loss".
This is something I need to keep in mind the next time this happens to me (I'm the one doing the chasing). I've said things like this before and I can see why it is a game where there are no winners - it can't be won.
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